It has always amazed me just how gullible we really are.
I mean, not all of us, but definitely some of us—well, a lot of us.
Okay, a heap of us.
No judgment.
Most of us.
What separates one person from another is basically which topic we are predispositionally gullible to.
You mighty have this incredibly smart businessman who’s gullible when it comes to love, or the savvy lawyer who’s gullible with friendships, or the shrewd banker totally gullible when it comes to silly infomercials.
Who knows?
But one thing for sure — we ALL have an area of weakness within ourselves that can fall prey to what I like to refer to as ‘the gullibility factor.’
I remember years ago I bought a food dehydrator off an infomercial in order to make turkey jerky.
I mean, really? C’mon. Me? Turkey jerky?
I was sold after they convincingly said I could make jerky out of anything.
At 1:30 a.m. it sounded like a great idea.
That thing came to my house in more pieces than an IKEA bookcase.
Needless to say, the only thing that wound up being jerkied was me.
Gullibility creeps up on you… slowly, like gray hair or wrinkles.
Unfortunately, in general, we just don’t want to see the blinking lights that warn us or smell the foul fishiness of deception circulating our air space or even hear the blaring sirens that are screaming full blast in our ears.
At times, we kinda, sorta ignore it all.
And you might ask, why?
The answer is really quite simple. It’s called human nature, and deep down we all just want to believe in… something/anything.
According to Wikipedia, the word “gullible” means naïve, easily deceived or tricked.
Today’s lesson will relate to one specific facet of dating.
We all saw the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You.” Well, it made a lot of sense, right?
However, I prefer coin it “Are You the Side Dish or the Main Course”? Ya know, the filet or the corn casserole, the turkey or the stuffing?
So how do you know?
Well, here are some questions to think about:
-Do your meals with him only consist of takeout?
-Does he only ask you out on off nights, i.e., Sunday, Monday or Tuesday?
-Does he only meet up with you when someone else he’s dating is out of town?
-Does he blame not seeing you on working all the time and other obligations?
-Does your relationship consist of mainly phone or text conversations, but never time together?
-Does he travel with other women and not you?
-Does he give you 10,000 reasons why he can’t see you, but he is on social media with other women or friends?
-Does he send you more mixed messages than springtime in the Midwest?
That’s how you know.
If you find yourself eating takeout on the carpet every time you are with ‘your friend,’ then you might possibly want to consider yourself to be his side dish.
Just reality.
When you are the main dish, you find yourself in a movie, at a restaurant, on vacation, usually outside the four walls of his/her dwelling.
He chases, he pursues, and he makes the time for you… a lot of it, without excuses, diversions or cover stories.
Why do we not see the proverbial writing on the wall?
Is it that our minds don’t want to accept the reality of the situation, or is it that our hearts won’t let us?
Not sure.
As George Carlin once said:
“Tell people there’s an invisible man in the sky who created the universe, and the vast majority will believe you. Tell them the paint is wet, and they have to touch it to be sure.”
In the end, if you’re not the main course — don’t be gullible.
Just close the restaurant and send him off to dine somewhere else.
And — and I do mean — if the guy really wants you… he’ll break through the windows to get to what you are serving.
Bon appetit!
Until Next week,
Love,
Karin
